I love that when my 3.5yo wants to be tickled he says, “Tickle me mama! When I say “purple” you stop.” And that’s how we play. He picks the word that we’ll use for “stop” and when he says it, I stop. “Now you tickle me,” I say, and when I say, “Purple,” he stops.
I respect the boundaries he sets, and he respects the boundaries I set.
This is how I’m working to stop rape/bully culture.